Unannounced Mother-in-Law Visit Causes Tension: A Mom Stands Firm on Boundaries
This mom found herself in the difficult position of asking her mother-in-law to leave because she was trying to wake her up. While some people manage to get along well with their mothers-in-law, this mom was unable to do so due to this unfortunate situation. She explained what has happened.
“My husband has a habit of never telling me when he is expecting guests and to be blunt, I’m tired of it. We have an 8-month-old, and there has been at least 15 occasions now where he has invited his mother or sister over and just not told me. They both live 3 hours away.”
Her frustration reached a peak when her mother-in-law unexpectedly showed up one Saturday afternoon.
“My MIL showed up here on Saturday and I had just laid down with our daughter to take a nap maybe 20 minutes prior. Like, I literally just fell asleep when my MIL and husband walk in to the bedroom. I wake up to my husband pulling my shirt back in to a decent position and him saying, ‘Hey, mum’s here to see us.'”
The mom’s response was clear and firm. “I say, ‘Well, I just got the baby down for a nap, so we aren’t available.'”
Her husband whispered, “Babe, she just traveled 3 hours to see us. You can take a nap after she leaves.” But the mom was having none of it.
“I told him to get out of the room, now. Well, my MIL says something to the effect of ‘Come on, up you go, I didn’t travel down here for nothing’ and starts pulling the blanket off me.”
That’s when the mom snapped, telling her MIL: “Yes you did travel down here for nothing because my daughter and I are not going to get out of bed for an unannounced guest. Get out, now.”
